LETTER 3: RECONCILING OFFENDED PARTIES
LETTER 3: RECONCILING OFFENDED PARTIES
Sheikh Sharfuddin Yahya Maneri
MORE BYSheikh Sharfuddin Yahya Maneri
In the name of God, the Merciful, the Compassionate!
Brother Shamsuddin, may Almighty God grant you eternal peace and
the perfection of His grace! Prayers and greetings! Study the words
that follow and try to grasp their meaning, namely that, after repentance, the task that falls to the lot of the beginner is the reconciling of
people who have fallen out with one another. This next step is important since all sins are of three kinds. The first is. the abandonment of
what has been required of you, such as prayer, fasting, and so on. A
person ought to perform all of these to the maximum extent possible.
The second category of sin is that between the creature and the Lord.
Examples of these are wine drinking, usury, listening to musical instruments, and similar activities. A person should strive to extricate
himself from these sins and to attain the state of repentance, and he
should also resolve firmly not to commit them again in the future.
The third type of sin is between you and other men. This is still harder and more difficult to correct than the sins already mentioned.
There are various kinds of conflicts—some concern property, others
one’s soul and body, still others women and slave girls, and also religion! )
With regard to goods, it is necessary, whenever possible, to re- -
turn anything illegally obtained to its rightful owner. If you, are not .
in a position to return his goods, you should ask the owner to remit |
your debt to him. If he is dead, do some deeds of charity for the wel- |
fare of his soul. If you cannot do this, perform other good deeds, seeking pardon for him as he stands in judgment. Turn your heart to the
Lord, humbling yourself and pleading for help so that He, of His
bountiful generosity, might be pleased with you on the Day of Resurrection.
As for what concerns your soul, consult one of God's saints; he
will know whether punishment or pardon awaits you. If this is not
possible, turn to God Himself in supplication and lamentation, so
that the One against whom you have sinned may become your friend
on the Day of Resurrection. ;
As for what is done through the body, such as backbiting, blaming, or troubling others in various ways, it is necessary for you to admit your backbiting to the person concerned and to seek his forgive-
ness. If you sense that he may become angry with you, it is still good
to grasp at the opportune moment, and to remain calm. If, however,
he becomes incensed whenever you speak, then turn back to God and
implore forgiveness on his account! If he has died, perform some good
work for his soul.
With respect to the treatment of women and slave girls, it is not
opportune to ask for forgiveness and bring the matter into the open.
That situation should be handled by turning to God so that He may
be happy with you on the Day of Judgment. Remain calm, even in the
face of God’s increased anger—though such is rare—and seek His forgiveness.
As for what concerns religion itself, such as making another per-
son into an unbeliever, or leading him astray in matters of faith, this
also presents difficulties. You must first of all accuse yourself of having lied and ask forgiveness of the person whom you have misled, if
this is possible. Otherwise, turn back to God Almighty and plead
with Him continuously until God Himself fills that person with happiness!
What needs to be grasped in the present chapter is this: As far as
possible, make your peace with anyone who has a legitimate grudge
against you.!? If you cannot do this, turn to Almighty God, humbling
yourself and crying out for help from a righteous heart so that, on the
Day of Resurrection, God Himself might be happy with you. Be confident that, when the Lord realizes how sincere-hearted His servant
is, He, out of the infinite treasure of His mercy, will make your adversary happy.!3 If you act in accordance with what has been said and
wholeheartedly turn away from sin, all will go well. But if you have omitted obligatory duties in the past and done nothing about it, or if
you have not taken pains to be reconciled to your enemies, then punishment awaits you. Unforgiven sins, you should realize, form a
chasm that is difficult to cross and fraught with baneful consequences
and dangers! [A tradition from Khwaja Abu Is'haq Isfahani follows.]
O brother, the slave of sin faces a veritable calamity. First comes
the sin of hardening one’s heart, which ultimately leads to unbelief
and wretchedness. May God protect us from such things! And do not
forget the wiles of Satan and Balaam! The works of both were sinful
from the very beginning and, at the end, both became unbelievers. A
pious person once said that a black heart comes from indifference to
committing sin, coupled with the absence of any desire to submit one-
self to God. If you heed sound advice, however, this baneful effect
will not afflict you. For goodness sake do not act like a fool, be swift
to repent! No one knows the hour of death. And if after repenting
you chance to be defeated and fall again, hurry back to the state of repentance, saying to yourself, “It is possible for me to die before sinning again!” In the same way after the second, third, fourth, and in-
deed after each and every relapse, repent! Do not be more sluggish in
repenting than you are in sinning! Be aware of not succumbing to Sa-
tan’s attempt to prevent you from repenting of your sins! If you say
‘“‘What’s the point of repenting this time? I know very well that I shall
sin in the future by failing to remain steadfast in my sorrow for sins!
How does repenting profit me?”
Know that such ideas are really the way Satan deceives people.
Who has informed you that you will remain alive until such time as
you do not sin again? You could easily die before then. The very fact
that you are afraid of sinning again indicates that you do sincerely re-
pent, even though it is God alone who can effect the radical transformation of a person’s heart. If this-is your desire but you have, in point
of fact, only turned incompletely from your past sins, then, providing
you are aiming at complete holiness in your life, no sins will actually
stain your soul, except the fresh ones that you might commit! This is
greatly to your advantage.
Even should you yield to fear and sin again and so fail to remain
in a state of perfect repentance, at least one of two possible benefits
will accrue to you. Have you never heard that the Prophet once said,
‘The best of you is he who, when he sins much, repents much”? The
heart of the matter of repentance is that you earnestly resolve to abandon sin. Only God knows if you will sin again in the future but, as far as possible, you should appease anyone whom you have offended and
adhere to those of His ordinances that you have neglected. As for the
rest, return to God with !amentation and supplication. Take a purificatory bath, put on clean clothes, and perform four prostrations of
formal prayer—and make sure all this proceeds from the core of your
heart! Then, in some deserted place' where no one except God Almighty can see you, put your face to the earth; throw dust on your
head and rub your face in it too! With tears in your eyes and a heart
filled with compunction and grief, recite, one by one, the sins of your
whole life and rebuke your soul in this fashion: “O soul, the time has
come for you to repent and turn to Almighty God.” Since you do not
have enough strength to bear patiently the divine punishment, nor do
you have the means to save yourself from it, raise your hands in sup-
plication and pray words such as these: “O Exalted One, your servant
flees to your door! Your sinful servant makes peace. He comes for-
ward with his humble request for forgiveness. Graciously accept me!
Look mercifully upon me! O Lord, forgive me, and wipe away all my
sins, for goodness belongs to You alone, O forgiving and merciful
One!”
If a drop of sin should appear,
How could it possibly be seen in such an ocean?
[Other prayers follow.]
Pray and seek forgiveness for all Muslims and occupy yourself
with worship till you experience a heartfelt sorrow and emerge purified from your sins—as though this were the very day your mother
gave birth to you! God will befriend you and lavish rewards and merits upon you, as well as blessings and mercies beyond description.
Thus you will finally be purified from the affliction and calamities of
both this world and the next.
O brother, if you wished to be accepted without faults, you
should not have been created with defects! Know for certain that
Adam was not expelled from paradise for eating wheat'*—he himself
wanted to be expelled! On the Day of Resurrection, thousands upon
thousands of sinners will find rest in paradise whereas Adam, for one
small fault, was expelled from it. If you say that Adam, in paradise,
was disobedient in order that he might be expelled, then what did our
Prophet do “at the distance of two bow lengths” (Q53:9) that he was
brought back from there to here? Although he was taken to the highest heaven in order that the angels might learn reverence from his prayers, he was brought back here so that men might learn from his
mode of worship how the Law was meant to be observed! There he
said: ‘There is no limit to the praise due You.” Here he said: “I am
the most eloquent of the Arabs. Bow down in worship, in every possible way. Bring before God any petition or desire you might have!”
There he said, “It is You whom I worship, O God Most High.” God
replied, “Accept everything that has been given.” When he said, “We
implore help from You!” (Q1:4) God replied, “Give him whatever he
wants!” The Royal Treasury will be a source of joy to beggars, among
whom none is more aware of his indigence than this particle of dust!
Heaven and earth, throne and footstool, all exude His fragrance,
but He does not decrease by a single particle! Indeed, there is no treasury like God’s! From it, the needs of every creature are met a thou-
sand times over. He has given and will continue to give every possible
dispensation to those who are penitent.
Peace!
In the name of God, the Merciful, the Compassionate!
Brother Shamsuddin, may Almighty God grant you eternal peace and
the perfection of His grace! Prayers and greetings! Study the words
that follow and try to grasp their meaning, namely that, after repentance, the task that falls to the lot of the beginner is the reconciling of
people who have fallen out with one another. This next step is important since all sins are of three kinds. The first is. the abandonment of
what has been required of you, such as prayer, fasting, and so on. A
person ought to perform all of these to the maximum extent possible.
The second category of sin is that between the creature and the Lord.
Examples of these are wine drinking, usury, listening to musical instruments, and similar activities. A person should strive to extricate
himself from these sins and to attain the state of repentance, and he
should also resolve firmly not to commit them again in the future.
The third type of sin is between you and other men. This is still harder and more difficult to correct than the sins already mentioned.
There are various kinds of conflicts—some concern property, others
one’s soul and body, still others women and slave girls, and also religion! )
With regard to goods, it is necessary, whenever possible, to re- -
turn anything illegally obtained to its rightful owner. If you, are not .
in a position to return his goods, you should ask the owner to remit |
your debt to him. If he is dead, do some deeds of charity for the wel- |
fare of his soul. If you cannot do this, perform other good deeds, seeking pardon for him as he stands in judgment. Turn your heart to the
Lord, humbling yourself and pleading for help so that He, of His
bountiful generosity, might be pleased with you on the Day of Resurrection.
As for what concerns your soul, consult one of God's saints; he
will know whether punishment or pardon awaits you. If this is not
possible, turn to God Himself in supplication and lamentation, so
that the One against whom you have sinned may become your friend
on the Day of Resurrection. ;
As for what is done through the body, such as backbiting, blaming, or troubling others in various ways, it is necessary for you to admit your backbiting to the person concerned and to seek his forgive-
ness. If you sense that he may become angry with you, it is still good
to grasp at the opportune moment, and to remain calm. If, however,
he becomes incensed whenever you speak, then turn back to God and
implore forgiveness on his account! If he has died, perform some good
work for his soul.
With respect to the treatment of women and slave girls, it is not
opportune to ask for forgiveness and bring the matter into the open.
That situation should be handled by turning to God so that He may
be happy with you on the Day of Judgment. Remain calm, even in the
face of God’s increased anger—though such is rare—and seek His forgiveness.
As for what concerns religion itself, such as making another per-
son into an unbeliever, or leading him astray in matters of faith, this
also presents difficulties. You must first of all accuse yourself of having lied and ask forgiveness of the person whom you have misled, if
this is possible. Otherwise, turn back to God Almighty and plead
with Him continuously until God Himself fills that person with happiness!
What needs to be grasped in the present chapter is this: As far as
possible, make your peace with anyone who has a legitimate grudge
against you.!? If you cannot do this, turn to Almighty God, humbling
yourself and crying out for help from a righteous heart so that, on the
Day of Resurrection, God Himself might be happy with you. Be confident that, when the Lord realizes how sincere-hearted His servant
is, He, out of the infinite treasure of His mercy, will make your adversary happy.!3 If you act in accordance with what has been said and
wholeheartedly turn away from sin, all will go well. But if you have omitted obligatory duties in the past and done nothing about it, or if
you have not taken pains to be reconciled to your enemies, then punishment awaits you. Unforgiven sins, you should realize, form a
chasm that is difficult to cross and fraught with baneful consequences
and dangers! [A tradition from Khwaja Abu Is'haq Isfahani follows.]
O brother, the slave of sin faces a veritable calamity. First comes
the sin of hardening one’s heart, which ultimately leads to unbelief
and wretchedness. May God protect us from such things! And do not
forget the wiles of Satan and Balaam! The works of both were sinful
from the very beginning and, at the end, both became unbelievers. A
pious person once said that a black heart comes from indifference to
committing sin, coupled with the absence of any desire to submit one-
self to God. If you heed sound advice, however, this baneful effect
will not afflict you. For goodness sake do not act like a fool, be swift
to repent! No one knows the hour of death. And if after repenting
you chance to be defeated and fall again, hurry back to the state of repentance, saying to yourself, “It is possible for me to die before sinning again!” In the same way after the second, third, fourth, and in-
deed after each and every relapse, repent! Do not be more sluggish in
repenting than you are in sinning! Be aware of not succumbing to Sa-
tan’s attempt to prevent you from repenting of your sins! If you say
‘“‘What’s the point of repenting this time? I know very well that I shall
sin in the future by failing to remain steadfast in my sorrow for sins!
How does repenting profit me?”
Know that such ideas are really the way Satan deceives people.
Who has informed you that you will remain alive until such time as
you do not sin again? You could easily die before then. The very fact
that you are afraid of sinning again indicates that you do sincerely re-
pent, even though it is God alone who can effect the radical transformation of a person’s heart. If this-is your desire but you have, in point
of fact, only turned incompletely from your past sins, then, providing
you are aiming at complete holiness in your life, no sins will actually
stain your soul, except the fresh ones that you might commit! This is
greatly to your advantage.
Even should you yield to fear and sin again and so fail to remain
in a state of perfect repentance, at least one of two possible benefits
will accrue to you. Have you never heard that the Prophet once said,
‘The best of you is he who, when he sins much, repents much”? The
heart of the matter of repentance is that you earnestly resolve to abandon sin. Only God knows if you will sin again in the future but, as far as possible, you should appease anyone whom you have offended and
adhere to those of His ordinances that you have neglected. As for the
rest, return to God with !amentation and supplication. Take a purificatory bath, put on clean clothes, and perform four prostrations of
formal prayer—and make sure all this proceeds from the core of your
heart! Then, in some deserted place' where no one except God Almighty can see you, put your face to the earth; throw dust on your
head and rub your face in it too! With tears in your eyes and a heart
filled with compunction and grief, recite, one by one, the sins of your
whole life and rebuke your soul in this fashion: “O soul, the time has
come for you to repent and turn to Almighty God.” Since you do not
have enough strength to bear patiently the divine punishment, nor do
you have the means to save yourself from it, raise your hands in sup-
plication and pray words such as these: “O Exalted One, your servant
flees to your door! Your sinful servant makes peace. He comes for-
ward with his humble request for forgiveness. Graciously accept me!
Look mercifully upon me! O Lord, forgive me, and wipe away all my
sins, for goodness belongs to You alone, O forgiving and merciful
One!”
If a drop of sin should appear,
How could it possibly be seen in such an ocean?
[Other prayers follow.]
Pray and seek forgiveness for all Muslims and occupy yourself
with worship till you experience a heartfelt sorrow and emerge purified from your sins—as though this were the very day your mother
gave birth to you! God will befriend you and lavish rewards and merits upon you, as well as blessings and mercies beyond description.
Thus you will finally be purified from the affliction and calamities of
both this world and the next.
O brother, if you wished to be accepted without faults, you
should not have been created with defects! Know for certain that
Adam was not expelled from paradise for eating wheat'*—he himself
wanted to be expelled! On the Day of Resurrection, thousands upon
thousands of sinners will find rest in paradise whereas Adam, for one
small fault, was expelled from it. If you say that Adam, in paradise,
was disobedient in order that he might be expelled, then what did our
Prophet do “at the distance of two bow lengths” (Q53:9) that he was
brought back from there to here? Although he was taken to the highest heaven in order that the angels might learn reverence from his prayers, he was brought back here so that men might learn from his
mode of worship how the Law was meant to be observed! There he
said: ‘There is no limit to the praise due You.” Here he said: “I am
the most eloquent of the Arabs. Bow down in worship, in every possible way. Bring before God any petition or desire you might have!”
There he said, “It is You whom I worship, O God Most High.” God
replied, “Accept everything that has been given.” When he said, “We
implore help from You!” (Q1:4) God replied, “Give him whatever he
wants!” The Royal Treasury will be a source of joy to beggars, among
whom none is more aware of his indigence than this particle of dust!
Heaven and earth, throne and footstool, all exude His fragrance,
but He does not decrease by a single particle! Indeed, there is no treasury like God’s! From it, the needs of every creature are met a thou-
sand times over. He has given and will continue to give every possible
dispensation to those who are penitent.
Peace!
- Book : Sharafuddin Maneri The Hundred Letters (Pg. 18)
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